Who Taught You To Shrink?

What does it really mean to be average… and who decided that was a bad thing?
This episode started with a simple conversation between me and my brother—but it turned into something deeper. A question that made me pause:
Are we actually afraid of being average… or are we afraid of being seen?
Because somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned that being accepted meant being smaller.
Downplaying our wins.
Quieting our voice.
Acting like we’re “just doing life” when we know there’s so much more to us.
In this episode, I’m unpacking:
How we learned to tie our worth to doing “more”
Why average isn’t the problem—but shrinking is
The subtle ways we make ourselves smaller to stay comfortable or accepted
And how to take back the power in the words we use to define ourselves
This isn’t about being the loudest, the busiest, or the most impressive.
It’s about being honest about who you are… without watering it down.
So if you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I’m just doing nothing much…” when you’ve actually been building something meaningful—this one is for you.
Because maybe the question isn’t “Am I average?”
Maybe it’s… “Where did I learn to make myself smaller?”